Obituary

Cora J. Tarbox

Mon, 04/13/2020 - 2:15pm

Cora Jean Tarbox, 93, of Westport Island, Maine and San Diego, California, passed away at her home in California on April 11.

She was born Dec. 21, 1926 in Fairfax, California, the fourth daughter and youngest child of Johann and Johanna Sybenga.

She is survived by her son, Jeffery H Tarbox of Westport Island; and daughter, Robin Tarbox-Roland of El Cajon, California; Robin’s husband Robert Roland and their four daughters, Jessica, Alissa, and Amelia Roland, and Lindsey Roland Hughes; and Lindsey and Brett Hughes’ two children, Cora’s great-grandchildren, Bryce and Morgan.

She was predeceased by her husband, Ronald Loring Tarbox Jr. Cora was the last survivor of the four Sybenga sisters and will be missed by three generations of nieces and nephews.

Trained as a registered nurse in obstetrics, after just a few years of practice in San Francisco and New York City, she married Ronald Tarbox in 1950 and became a Navy wife, relocating around the country to follow his career. She was a full-time homemaker but set an example of volunteering and community service. In the 1960s, using her obstetrics knowledge, she counseled young women about their bodies and human reproduction, organized donations to support struggling farm workers, then helped her church establish a day care center to support working families.

In 1972 she and her husband took in a foster child, Joanne Apicelli, a classmate of their daughter Robin, who has remained a loved member of the extended family, now known as Alani Manystar.

In 1975, with the fall of the Republic of Vietnam and the exodus of hundreds of thousands of Vietnamese, Cora and her husband Ron sponsored and opened their home to a family of nine, who Ron had met when stationed in Saigon in 1967. The Pham family lived with them in their three-bedroom house in San Diego for six months. The two sons and four daughters, with their children and now many grandchildren, are also now extended family and Cora cared for them very much.

In 1980 Cora and Ron started spending half the year at the Tarbox family homestead on Westport Island, restoring the 1780s and 1840s era houses. Cora started working on the Tarbox family genealogy, as well as her own Dutch Sybenga genealogy, and discovered a love of history. From pursuing the Tarbox side, she wrote the “History of Westport Island” that is available today from the Westport Island town office. Her work continues to inspire the island’s History Committee. In San Diego she was for years a docent at the Museum of Man.

Cora was a member of the San Carlos Methodist Church in San Diego, and a former member of the First Congregational Church of Wiscasset.

Memorial services will be planned for this summer, or whenever the current COVID-19 crisis allows, in San Diego and Westport Island.